Chew the Meat, Spit Out the Bones: Why Girls and Women Are Unlearning to Rise and Reclaim Their Worth

We were told,
“Be strong.”
“Keep it together.”
“Do as you’re told.”
“Don’t question what worked for us.”

But here's the truth:
Just because it worked, doesn’t mean it worked for your good.
And more times than not, walking in your worth as a girl or woman means doing the hardest thing of all—unlearning what raised you so you can rise into who you're called to be.

The Breaking Point: When Upbringing Becomes Unraveling

We’re in the middle of a silent revolution. Girls and women are starting to chew the meat and spit out the bones, honoring the lessons but rejecting the trauma. Because while the intentions may have been pure, the delivery was often toxic. We were disciplined without grace, pushed without compassion, praised only when we performed. And now? We’re reparenting ourselves with truth.

Trend #1: Unlearning Is a Form of Leadership

According to McKinsey’s Women in the Workplace report, nearly 60% of women say they’ve had to undo harmful mental patterns from childhood in order to thrive professionally. That’s not rebellion, it’s redirection. That’s why Worthy Woman, Wildly Winning is built around worthiness, not wounds. Women don’t need more performance metrics. They need permission to heal.

Trend #2: Gen Z Girls Are Rewriting the Script

Girls today are questioning everything—and we should be cheering them on. According to The Confidence Code, 75% of girls between 8–13 struggle with perfectionism, people-pleasing, and pressure to conform. But they’re also open to tools that teach resilience with compassion. Books like Fearless & Flourishing and The Compound Effect for Girls provide that foundation, teaching girls how to think for themselves, feel deeply, and rise confidently without repeating the pain of past generations.

Trend #3: Faith + Worthiness = Sustainable Growth

Barna Group studies show that young women integrating faith into personal development are more likely to report higher confidence, stronger boundaries, and increased clarity in life goals.

In Crowned in Confidence, I offer a strategic approach, because worthiness isn’t just a mindset, it’s a mantle. When girls and women remember whose, they are, they begin to question what no longer serves them and stop glorifying struggle as strength.

Forget how you were raised. Focus on how you will rise.

It takes courage to say,
* “Thank you for what you taught me, but I’m choosing a new way.”
* It takes strength to let go of survival mode and step into sovereignty.
* It takes wisdom to keep the values, but reject the violence of shame, perfectionism, and pressure.

This is the new standard. This is the real rise.
And I’m here to lead it.